Comments on: Honor Culture http://boysalmanac.com/2009/12/17/honor-culture/ Boy's Almanac: Modern Adventures with The American Boy's Handy Book Sun, 05 Feb 2012 08:13:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: alis http://boysalmanac.com/2009/12/17/honor-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-22933 alis Mon, 04 Jan 2010 03:15:41 +0000 http://boysalmanac.com/?p=2249#comment-22933 Wow, maybe we should start each play date by getting out the smashing basket...smash some stuff...then lay down the ground rules for our play date! Wow, maybe we should start each play date by getting out the smashing basket…smash some stuff…then lay down the ground rules for our play date!

]]> By: admin http://boysalmanac.com/2009/12/17/honor-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-22894 admin Sun, 03 Jan 2010 06:24:17 +0000 http://boysalmanac.com/?p=2249#comment-22894 You know, I think this is my favorite post here so far because this little lesson has made the biggest improvement in my life! Before, I had taken it for granted, this innate destructive drive, but now that I acknowledge it out loud, it's automatic: Ford and Chas now have a mallet and a basket of things I've set aside for them to smash: acorns, bottle caps, old nuts, bubblewrap--oh my LORD, can they spend hours smashing this stuff up! It's a brilliant redirection! Thanks :) You know, I think this is my favorite post here so far because this little lesson has made the biggest improvement in my life! Before, I had taken it for granted, this innate destructive drive, but now that I acknowledge it out loud, it’s automatic: Ford and Chas now have a mallet and a basket of things I’ve set aside for them to smash: acorns, bottle caps, old nuts, bubblewrap–oh my LORD, can they spend hours smashing this stuff up! It’s a brilliant redirection! Thanks :)

]]> By: alis http://boysalmanac.com/2009/12/17/honor-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-22711 alis Sat, 26 Dec 2009 17:25:01 +0000 http://boysalmanac.com/?p=2249#comment-22711 Thanks for all the great feedback! I feel less alone putting this idea out there when I hear that other moms have the same bravery management dilemmas. One tip for the younger ones... When Seth was younger he would stop playing, turn to me and say "mommy I need to damage something". That was my queue to rush him outside turn the hose on jet and let him spray his mud pit for 3 minutes. Alternatively we had a heavy plastic mallet in our dirt pile and he would smash clods for a few minutes. When he was done with his testosterone management he would head back into the house to resume his "task". I think having an official place/task for venting testosterone is not only fair but really helpful for little boys. Thanks for all the great feedback! I feel less alone putting this idea out there when I hear that other moms have the same bravery management dilemmas.

One tip for the younger ones… When Seth was younger he would stop playing, turn to me and say “mommy I need to damage something”. That was my queue to rush him outside turn the hose on jet and let him spray his mud pit for 3 minutes. Alternatively we had a heavy plastic mallet in our dirt pile and he would smash clods for a few minutes. When he was done with his testosterone management he would head back into the house to resume his “task”.

I think having an official place/task for venting testosterone is not only fair but really helpful for little boys.

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